Debby Herbenick

Hi, my name is Debby Herbenick.

I like friends, family, flowers, leaves, beaches, warm weather, gardening and the smell of morning. I plant bulbs and dream about them coming up in the spring.

I write about sex at

Here I write mostly about things that are not so overtly about sex.

“If we listened to our intellect we’d never have a love affair. We’d never have a friendship. We’d never go in business because we’d be cynical: “It’s gonna go wrong.” Or “She’s going to hurt me.” Or,”I’ve had a couple of bad love affairs, so therefore …” Well, that’s nonsense. You’re going to miss life. You’ve got to jump off the cliff all the time and build your wings on the way down.” 





How to kill someone:
Hold their hand and then never touch their skin again,
See them nearly everyday and pretend they don’t exist,
Act like everything you ever said to them was a lie.
 (via insanity-and-vanity)

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(Source: kitschyliving, via anxietyst)

Always be kinder than you feel. (via thedailypozitive)

(via anxietyst)

You don’t start out writing good stuff. You start out writing crap and thinking it’s good stuff, and then gradually you get better at it.
That’s why I say one of the most valuable traits is persistence.
Octavia E. Butler (via fictionwritingtips)

(via mittensmorgul)

A writer is a world trapped in a person. Victor Hugo (via thetrickyowl)

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I think I’m in love with missing you more than I’m in love with you. Sylvia Plath (via c-oquetry)

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